Cleaning out the bookcase, I ran across a book that my husband and I read. I sat down and read for a while and began reflecting with the love holiday around the corner, Valentine’s Day what love means in a relationship. Ah, love is in the air. Right? Hum, let me think!!! This week has not been bad, last week was terrible. What about this upcoming week, what about today?
Make every day just a little better.
Relationships will be irritated daily by small, insignificant habits of one another. Towels lying on the floor, dishes not done, and the list goes on.
Next.
Meeting one another’s needs is a daily endeavor. Many wives’s approach to getting love is to complain and criticize in order to motivate her husband to become more loving and to understand her. Sorry, that approach does not work. Husbands will view this approach as anger, irritation and disrespect. Husbands interpret criticism as contempt and contempt is something most men do not handle well.
The more that wives complain and criticize the more husbands withdraw and stonewall.
Women are designed to love. Women need love just as she needs air to breathe. Women show and talk about how they feel, while men shut down. Women must learn how to understand and use the word, “respect”, this is a man’s deepest value. He will go to the moon for a woman who shows respect.
Women like round tables, no one is at the head of the table, and there is equality. Women want face-to-face involvement, talk and time. Movies are not a good date for talking. Shut off the television, set time aside just for two to talk. Be willing to listen and listen and listen. Women can talk and talk and talk. As a man, you will not be able to be as involved with your wife as she would like. Just plain truth
Wives Feel LOVED When:
-hold her hand
-hug her
-affectionate without sexual intentions
-focus on her and laugh together
-activities that are done together, walk and see the full moon, hike and watch the sunset
-set up a date night
-run an errand for her, offer to get groceries
-make it a priority to spend time with her
-let her know you enjoy spending time together, with her, listening to her
-lie close together, share feelings and intimate ideas
Husbands Feel RESPECTED When:
-value his work efforts
-listen to his work stories
-see yourself as his helpmate
-allow him to dream about your future, without restrictions
-do not dishonor or criticize his work
-verbalize your appreciation of his protection for you and the family
-tell him you are thankful for his strengths and enjoy being able to lean on him at times
-honor his authority in the family
-respond to him sexually
Learn more about Marriage
The love she most desires
The respect he desperately needs
Checkout the book, Love and Respect, by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs.
Pamela D Bussi was born and raised in northern Montana along the hi-line.
Writing, health, wellness and photography are her passions. Pamela is predominately a non-fiction writer with topics related to health, wellness and lifestyle.
She resides with her husband and son in Bozeman, Montana. She is a contributing author to Montana Healthy Living Magazine as well as a photojournalist for the Examiner at examiner.com and Power Women Magazine.
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